Monday, January 26, 2009

we're not out of the woods yet

Things are definately looking brighter around here now, after a few very dark weeks. That doesn't mean that everything's rosy, though. Sunday morning was a little rough. Everything was no, nej, nyet. . . Sofia didn't even eat lunch that day - she refused to come up from the basement. By 2 in the afternoon, she was in a better mood and finally came up, said sorry to her Papa and had a little to eat. Later that evening, Stefan and I figured that it was probably Sunday's lack of routine that threw her for a loop . . .

Apparently, last night was also not so great, but I was at work. They were outside sledding, and Sofia was very whiny - even though she had promised she wouldn't be this time.

Bedtime is going well. She has gone to sleep in her own bed 5 nights in a row.

Today, again, I took Sofia to school for 2 hours. This time, I didn't go in her classroom at all. She now has her own desk and chair and place on the coatrack. Her class went out to skate for gym today, so she also played outside with the school children for awhile. They were sledding on the hill in the school's back playground. It was an icy hill, and she went down a few times, and over the jump as well. She just laughed. If it had happened at home, she would have started crying or screaming . . .

The last few times she has had to say sorry for something she has done, she has cried softly afterwards while getting her hugs. We think she understands what the word means now. We think the crying is a good sign, because it seems she knows we are reconnecting with her after a rift, and that's what people are supposed to do . . .

We just took a break to have some sandwiches for lunch and we had another funny conversation around vocabulary. I thought she had burped, so I asked (in Swedish) if she had. Then she said, "Rapa på Svenska. På Engelska?" I told her it was "burp" and asked what it was in Russian. First she said she didn't know, then she said, "På Ryska . . . . {insert a burp with an angry look on the face}". Funny girl.

Here are a few more photos, they are all pre-haircut:

Sam and Sofia. This was the day she had sorted through her pile of stuff from Russia and divided it among us.

Mama and Sofia making pancakes.

Joel and Sofia were running around the house with the towels they got from Uncle Steve.

Sofia reading from her Russian book. We're not sure if this book came from the orphanage or Babushka Tonja. For awhile she was pulling it out while the boys did their homework. Today she has put it on the top shelf in her closet, along with all her other Russian things.


Purplestamper said...

5 nights in a ROW...Bravo...that is a huge success. We still have Jayde coming in the early morning hours to our bed. I know one day she won't do it anymore...It must be exciting to see her making all these milestones...thinking of you often and keeping you in my prayers. Blessings Barb...Sheri

Cheri said...

All sounds good to me... very typical for her age!
Routines are always good and change is difficult even for us!
Have a good week! Did the magazine get to you??
Love, Cheri

corduroygirl said...

I'm glad the kids liked their things. Sorry about the stickers. I forgot that they put those in there now.

My blog header was actually purchased from here but you can also make them if you have a program like photoshop. I'm not sure what size you would have to make it though. Then you just save it and upload it.

Liked the new pics. We have snow here today too. It supposed to wash away so we might not be able to get sledding in.

Jackie said...

Yay! Five nights in a row! Yes, consistency is a good thing! I think it is interesting about her feeling remorse after she has said she is sorry. I think too she might be understanding the meaning... I'm glad to read the update!

Over-Caffeinated x 4 said...

Hey girl, steps in the right direction are still steps, right!? I have been thinking about you alot and I'm sure you know that things will be two steps forward one step back for a while, but it's still progress, albeit slow. I made a long analogy about that once on my adoption blog, will see if I can find it.

Also, in the list of things I sent you, did I tell you about rolling her up tight in a blanket (like swaddling an infant?) If not, e-mail me and I will tell you the technique. My middle son LOVES it. My oldest still asks for it on occassion when he's had a particularly bad day.

Cheri said...

I, too, have heard about the swaddling in a blanket technique!
I think it would work great for a comfort snuggle...

Anonymous said...

Hi Barb! I just thought i would leave a comment here because i have been following your blog for quite sometime now! I'm so happy for you guys! What a blessing! Little Sofia is beautiful! I'm sure your enjoying the girl thing for a change:) Take care of yourself and say hi to the kids and Stefan!

tammy said...

i'm glad there are more good days than bad! bad days are no fun.

thanks for the explanation of where you were from. i dated a canuck for a few years. at one point i thought i might end up living in vancouver. that relationship didn't work out though.

great pictures.

The Holms

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The outskirts of St. Pete

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